Need Legal Advice? I'll Give You One!

Before doing anything, try to consider what your loved ones / the public might think of you once they find out what you're doing. Will you be able to stomach their reaction, or are you the type to call an attorney and then squirm your way out of a mess?

Much of you have read this article, No One Told Me I'd Be Cutting Ties With Chums After Becoming An Attorney! and the next morning, my friend sent me a dm(direct message). 

I didn't think to reply. It was obvious that she was venting, and that she was hurt. She claims to not care what other people thought of her, as if they even knew her. But she forgot that I never disclosed her identity. And her response tells me she cares a great deal about what people think.

Since passing the bar, many people have been adding me on Facebook - most of which are strangers, and some of which are people I know personally. I don't know what it is about becoming a lawyer that projects this image of me as an ATM. I never felt the need to tell the public this but it seems like this needs to be said, I don't dispense cash.

I'm guessing that many will react to that, especially if I attach screenshots of their messages soliciting money for an NGO endeavor, or for a personal emergency that they should have prepared for given that they're employed adults. But let me reiterate, I never disclose people's identities. I just share these stories to inform and educate. 

I wouldn't mind donating for a worthy cause. But it matters who requests the solicitation of funds. This particular person has a habit of entering into loans with people, and then forgetting them or leaving those debts unsettled. I have even heard that this person had been extorting money from a public school teacher, with whom he was exchanging sensitive images. Not really the poster child for someone who's soliciting funds for a certain NGO endeavor, right?

And just recently, I had to keep my distance from someone, not out of Covid-19 or anything. I feel like we have different values. The deets will be disclosed in a separate blog;) She flooded me with messages thinking that I had divulged her identity, and that my feedback about a diving company whose services we had availed, would affect her job. 

All in all, people react differently once the spotlight is swung towards them. Their biggest fears and shames are put to light. And it's only then that they understand how narrow-minded they were at the moment. So before doing anything, ask yourself if you're willing to stomach the consequences of your actions once they're brought to light.